How to Avoid Communication Breakdown

Family Matters 

I welcome you to this great month in which your great desires shall be fulfilled. This month, I shall be discussing one of the vital factors that could be a great help in your relationship with your spouse. A lot has been said about communication, but I shall be approaching this topic in a new way, and dwelling more on:

How to Avoid Communication Breakdown.
Having a good understanding of what communication means, will go a long way in helping you to avoid its breakdown. Therefore this week I shall be discussing: Understanding Communication. A man that seeks knowledge will increase in wisdom. The Bible says: Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding (Prov 4:7).

What is Communication? Defined loosely, communication is the art of carrying on a meaningful conversation. But the dictionary defines it as, "the art of passing information across; the transference of thoughts." Someone also simply puts it as an act of transmitting information and ideas from one person to another; it involves a sender and a receiver.

Communication is in two ways. It is important to understand that effective communication must be two-ways. In the case of family communication, both husband and wife must participate in conversations, before it can be said to be communication. Once there is free access to each other, it becomes a time of sweet fellowship.

The basis for a fruitful and lasting relationship in the family is effective communication. Lack of communication is the reason behind so much tension within many homes. Communication can be said to be the mortar that cements the marital relationship together. Communication is the key to success in marriage. A wise man said, "If you talk together, you stay together," and I believe it very strongly.

Looking at the first family, the Adam family, you can appreciate the importance of effective communication. God commanded Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Adam believed but failed to effectively communicate the seriousness of the instruction to Eve. She thought it was a minor issue. Lack of adequate communication brought about their fall. You shall not fall.

Communication in marriage is could be likened to a life giving river. When husband and wife cannot communicate, a huge dam is built stopping the flow of water. This causes everything around them to suffer and slowly dies, so seeds planted cannot grow. This way, the spouse develops a strong inward thirst for their unmet needs eventually causing multiple cracks throughout the relationship. Many promising marriages have fallen into ruin simply because of communication breakdown. Your marriage will not breakdown in Jesus' name.

To enjoy a free flow of communication with your spouse, you must develop a good communication with God. The scripture in Hebrews 3:4 helps us to understand that although every house is built by men, He that builds all things is God. God is the ultimate Builder of the family. That is why once a man or woman lacks effective communication with God, the communication between each other is affected.

Therefore, let the communication lines between you and God be open all the time. Learn to rob minds with Him; as you do, His great mind will rob off on your little mind, making it sharper. I have found that God helps us to communicate better with each other. I have never had difficulty expressing myself to my husband and he to me, because we give utmost priority to our relationship with God.

If you desire effective communication in your home, the right place to begin from is a personal relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. If you want to start this relationship right now, you can say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.

Congratulations! You are now a child of God!