How to Avoid Communication Breakdown 3

Family Matters 

 

Welcome to your week of blessing in Jesus' name. I have been examining the issue of communication in the home. Also, I have established the fact that communication is vital factor in improving your relationship, not only with your spouse, but with other members of your household as well.

This week, I shall be discussing what I titled, Communication Blocks. While defining what communication is, I said it is the passing across of information between two persons. Communication blocks are the things that you do, through your words and actions that prevent you from connecting at a deep level with someone else.

When you want to have a telephone line connected to your house, the first thing you do is to go to the Agency responsible and apply for the same. The moment you are connected, you can freely pick up your receiver and dial any number of your choice. However, you can only call someone who is also connected.

In our relationship with God, He expectes us to keep our communication lines open in form of relating to Him in prayer. He said in Jer. 33:3 Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not. But if the line is blocked there will be no response and it can be frustrating.

If you block your communication line with your spouse and you make it impossible to access you, then you are digging a big grave. Your home and marriage will not end up in the grave.

There are some things that you can do to block your spouse from talking to you -you must avoid these:

• If you roll your eyes and look exasperated or resigned when your husband or wife talks, all you are trying to say is "I have heard enough."
  
• When you sigh loudly and deeply when your mate is sharing an opinion then, it means, "Am not in agreement."
  
• When you look at a clock or at your watch repeatedly it implies: "You are wasting my time with your conversation."
  
• When you don't stop whatever you're doing when your partner wants to have a serious conversation with you, all you want to pass across is:" What I am doing is much more important than you."
  
• When you don't make eye contact and give your spouse your complete attention, then you want him/her to know that, "You are just forcing me to be here I have other things to do."
  
• When you use the time while your spouse is speaking, to think about things unrelated to what your partner is saying, all you simply want is for him/her to leave you to your own world."
  

These are great communication blocks that have shattered homes and marriages. You could probably develop these attitudes because you are reacting to what might have happened in the past but I want you to understand that this will further cause your home to disintegrate.

These attitudes are common among women. The Bible says: Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Prov 14:1). Do not block your spouse. It shall be well with you.

If you desire effective communication in your home, the right place to begin from is a personal relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. If you want to start this relationship right now, you can say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today as a sinner. I believe You died for my sins and rose on the third day. Forgive me my sins. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today.

Congratulations! You are now a child of God!