THE HOME BREAKERS

Family Life

I welcome you to this wonderful month. This month shall deliver to you the blessing, promotion, good health, and other things that you have been waiting for. This month, I shall be exposing the Home Breakers. The word "home breaker" might have caused you to be thinking of a lady or a man that you feel is the threat to your home. This might not be totally true. Most home breakers are just attitudinal problems that have not been worked on.

While Jesus was talking about marriage and family in Matthew 19:6 He said: Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. There are things that break homes, these are things that cause family stress, pain, arguments, quarrel, lack of peace, separation and sometimes, even divorce. Most of them, are caused by man himself. A good knowledge of some of them will help to keep your family free from such things.

This week, I shall be pointing to two of these home breakers - ANGER and BITTERNESS.

ANGER: It is defined as a strong feeling of annoyance and hostility. It is human to get angry at one time or the other, but it becomes inhuman when you allow the feeling to take you over. God's Word in Ephesians 4:26 says: Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. This means that if you are angry, do not let it lead you into sin by nursing your grudge. Don't let the day end with the anger still in you; get over it quickly. When you hold on to anger, you open the door to sin.

If you are not pleased about the way your spouse does certain things at certain times, instead of exploding and speaking cruel words which can cause irreparable damage, control your emotions. Take a walk or go to the prayer closet, until your anger simmers down. Anger is like a kettle of boiling water and as long as the fire is on, the water will boil faster. To cool the water, you need to turn off the source of fire, place the kettle on a cool surface and give it time to cool down. When this is done, the water that was formerly boiling will become cool enough even to drink.

You can let off steam by discussing the issue at a right time or better still, pray to God about it. Tell God exactly how you feel, and allow Him to speak peace to you. Anger kills. A good example of this is found in Genesis 49:5, 7 which says: Simeon and Levi are brethren... cursed by their anger, for it was fierce and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel. Anger is a display of higher level of foolishness as stated in Ecclesiastes 7:9 which says: ... Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools! It has the same consequences as murder (Matthew 5:22). If you are the type that gets angry unnecessarily and uncontrollably, you need to deal with it before it deals with you. Anger breaks home faster than fornication. Learn to control yourself!

BITTERNESS: This starts from very little things that might have caused you hurt by any member of your family, and you refuse to forgive and forget. Every time you remember the incidence, you are hurt all over again. Watch it! That is a root of bitterness springing up gradually. It will eventually lead to trouble, if it is not nipped in the bud. Hebrews 12:15 says: Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up, trouble you and thereby many be defiled. Once bitterness gains access into your heart, it will magnify itself and begin to dominate you. You lose your rest to troubles, malice and disagreements. If you are bitter against your spouse for instance, you will not even want to be seen with him/her.

Bitterness stems out of unforgiveness, which is a great blocker to God in your home. Anywhere God is not, there will always be chaos. It seeks to steal and frustrate the grace of God from you. The Bible says: Let all bitterness... be put away from you, with all malice (Ephesians 4:3). To do this, you must forgive and forget completely past hurts, so that you can live a peaceful and burden-free life. The principle of instant forgiveness has helped me a great deal. My husband and I practise it and it has paid off for us. It pays to forgive!

If you have challenge in the area of anger and bitterness, you need the grace and help from God. Help from God will come faster for you when you are born again. If you would like to be born again, please, say this prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. Deliver me form sin and satan to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your kingdom. 

Congratulations! You are now a child of God!